Staying on the Same Page

Marriage is tough. No doubt about it. When I've heard some couples never fight, I think they're lying...or hiding something. ;)

It's already hard work, but add a child and you've now got plenty to argue about. That's why I wanted to talk about staying on the same page with your spouse.

My husband, Sean, is an incredibly hard worker. He works a lot of hours, and then comes home to be an awesome husband and father. I am very blessed, to say the least.

Sean and I at a Christmas party :)

We have both grown up a lot since dating, some things for the better, and some not so better, but we are learning about each other everyday and figuring it out as we go. Just like parenting, you just keep trying. 

Aubree, being the handful she is, and being our first has definitely created static, especially in the parenting styles department. We talked about it extensively, of course, before having Aubree, but you really don't know what kind of parent you'll be or how you'll handle tough situations until you're in the midst of it.

Marriage is about give and take, and I've realized that, if things aren't going well, you have to try and pick up the slack. So you give a little, maybe even a lot, and get to your spouse's level. I realized by actually listening to Sean how inconsistent I am with discipline and how much of a softy I am. It's totally true. I'm a Mama. I naturally can't help it. BUT. I also am in charge of making sure this child grows up in the best way possible and that she understands consequences will always be there in life.

It's important to listen to your spouse. They have a lot of valuable things to add. :) 

It's a two-way street. If you have something that you feel is important, speak up. They'll want to know how to be better. That's what it's all about, building each other up and making each other the best spouse you can both be. It's all in the communication.

How you deal with the tough days of marriage? Let me know in the comments!